Trauma

People often think trauma is about a big life-threatening event. But some of the deepest wounds come from what was missing: the comfort you didn’t get, the protection that never came, the love that was withheld.

2. Trauma can live in the body long after the mind “forgets.”

You might not remember the details but your body does. Chronic tension, flinching at loud sounds, or gut issues can all be echoes of unprocessed trauma. This is why trauma therapy often includes body-based approaches.

3. People with trauma can look incredibly put-together.

Many trauma survivors become hyper-independent, perfectionistic, or overly accommodating. They’ve built impressive lives but inside, they’re surviving, not thriving. Trauma isn’t always obvious.

4. Trauma can be passed down—even if you never talk about it.

We now know that trauma can affect gene expression. Your grandparents’ trauma can shape your nervous system. This is called intergenerational trauma and healing often involves breaking patterns that began long before you.

5. Trauma can make safe things feel dangerous and dangerous things feel normal.

Someone raised in chaos might feel uncomfortable in calm relationships. Someone who was never protected might not even notice red flags. Trauma rewires our sense of what’s "normal."

Healing from trauma doesn’t mean forgetting. It means learning to feel safe again in your body, your relationships, and your life. And that is possible.